Wednesday, 15 May 2013

The Invincible Pay-Gap Delusion

So I just came across this madness again today as an advert for International Women's Day, & yes I know that's long over now but don't rush me - I was built for comfort, not for speed:
"Women perform 66% of the world’s work, but receive only 11% of the world’s income"
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I ask you, gentle reader, in the name of all that is holy & yet sane, to step back from that endlessly regenerating leviathan of hyperbole for just a second & think about it objectively with me.

First of all: 66% of the world's work? What the fugazi? Men work far longer hours & the overwhelming majority of all overtime, everywhere in the world, whereas women work the great majority of part-time jobs (which in itself goes a long way towards explaining the perceived pay gap, by the way, as part-time jobs obviously pay less than full-time). That 66% figure can only exist because it is counting cooking, cleaning & childcare (activities that any adult human being living without a partner would have to carry out for themselves anyway) as 'work'. But let's leave that aside. That's not the part that levitated my gander.

What pisses me off most about this is the now widely-indoctrinated worldview that women & men are two separate, opposing camps, each of us isolated units working only for ourselves - a pretty ugly delusion in itself - instead of the historical reality, which is men & women living together, supporting one another & feeding, clothing & protecting the children who will grow up to replace them.

That, in essence, is the human story of the world, not any 'patriarchy' theory poppycock. The history of the world is far less the story of 'male privilege' than of men generation after generation ceaselessly labouring & sacrificing themselves for their women & their children, for their tribe, for the good of all.

The uneven division of labour that gave women the less hazardous & strenuous role was a kindness to women, a reflection of shared values that saw women as having value outside of just cogs in a corporate machine, wage slaves like the men were forced to be. But since feminism & identity politics began, we have become accustomed to identifying ourselves as smaller & smaller victim groups, at war with all around us, & encouraged to look out only for ourselves.

The word 'Equality' went from meaning equality of opportunity - the removal of barriers or special treatment preventing a fair race - to equality of outcome, where barriers & special treatment became necessary to ensure that everyone reached the finish line at the same time. 'Equality' became a set of bean-counting scales where the outcome of all endeavors had to always balance out or else someone, somewhere, was cheating & oppressing you.

On this side, this pile of beans represents all the beans that men have made - to support, & be spent by, women. On that side sits the smaller amount of beans that 'women' - all women in the world, all put together - actually went out & acquired for themselves. A woman who doesn't have to work because she & her children are being provided for by a man doesn't technically have an income at all, but surely we can see she is not being discriminated against or disadvantaged by the man working for her, as his money is what she is using to buy everything she has. Is this really not obvious?

From that same position, that isolated model of existence, where only the individual is counted, without any context, one could just as easily say:
Children make up 25% of the world's population but receive less than 1% of the worlds income!
Children! Stand up & fight against those caring & providing for you!

And we may be seeing that any day now. To take another statistic, also found on several feminist sites:
"Women make 85% of all purchasing decisions, spend almost 2 of every 3 healthcare dollars, influence 68% of all new car purchase decisions and control two-thirds of the nation’s disposable income".
Well now how could that be? Women, after all, only 'have' 11% of the money. Right?

You're confused. Okay, let me walk you through this. Say your husband is... oh, I don't know.. a CEO of some multinational corporation, or a high-price lawyer, a rock star: you don't need to work at all, yet you 'have' half of whatever he makes through his work, & you actually spend much more of it than he does, & get to decide what on. You don't 'make' more, so it won't show up in the statistics. And yet you're going where you want to, you're shopping with a gold card & having your nails done by the pool. You're not 'earning' anything, statistically speaking, but you're in no way being disadvantaged by that situation, any more than the Queen of England is being oppressed or disadvantaged by not getting to work part-time in a corner shop.

On a less blatantly obvious scale, this is being played out by a hundred million married couples all around the world, where - especially after having children - the woman decides to stay at home with the kids, or begin to work part time, or at least clock off at 4:30 on the dot. The man, on the other hand, is much more likely to work even harder, now that he has both a wife & children to support, so works longer hours, & overtime, all to put his kids through college & keep his wife in the style to which she is accustomed. He's 'earning' more than her alright, but is his life any better? Is he privileged & 'empowered' by this? Who, if anyone, is being exploited or disadvantaged by this set-up?

That primary feminist factoid we hear regurgitated everyday - that "women are paid 70 cents for every man's dollar" - makes little sense when you look at it up close. Say you & a friend of the opposite sex go apply for the same entry-level position at, say, Starbucks, or 7-11, the post office, a bank. The manager sees you both in his or her office & says:

"You, male person, we are starting you off at £10 an hour. Whereas you, female person, will be receiving £7 an hour. Okay? Good, now off to work with you both!"

Have you ever seen that happen? Does anyone seriously believe that EVER happens? Of course not, but in case anyone running a business would for whatever bizarre reason decide to try to do so, we have laws against it. Did you know that? Laws! Yes! For years!


Another thing: if women are existing on only 11% of the world's income, then we'd expect to see the great majority of homeless people to be female, correct? The people who have the least? But no, 80-90% of the homeless population of the world - by definition, surely, the very bottom of the heap: they literally, after all, don't even have a bed to piss in - are male. Where do they fit in to the equation?

The reason feminism was accepted so readily into both capitalist & communist states is because it aids those states more than the people controlled by them. More women in factories means more workers & more people to tax. If one half of the people can be convinced that the other half of the people are The Problem then that effectively diminishes any united resistance to the powers that be, & demonizes & diminishes the members of the populace most likely to actually take up arms & risk their lives to bring about any kind of dramatic, revolutionary change - i.e, the men.


Strong men, in the past honored & appreciated as warriors, we are now encouraged to consider only 'macho assholes' & gleefully disdain. Women, once treasured for their essential role as mother & nurturer, are no longer considered truly productive members of society unless they are wage slaves too. A big family living, eating & sleeping together under one roof generates far less revenue & taxes than all those people living apart, all paying separate rent & taxes, all buying food & paying bills just for themselves. All this helps the state, the banks, the factory owners. But not us.

As I've already said, this obsessive bean-counting completely denies & obscures the fact that most human beings live today as they have always lived: together, as fathers, mothers, daughters, sons, brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, lovers, neighbours & friends. This is what we truly are, & what we must strive to preserve if any kind of collective human existence worth living is to continue.

The pay-gap delusion refuses to die, though common sense should have killed it before it even began, all those years ago. Me saying this will make very little dent in it, of course, but by Vishnu's beard, it annoys the hell out of me.

CBS NEWS: The Gender Pay-Gap Is A Complete Myth
Gender Differences In Overtime
Warren Farrell on 'Why Men Earn More & What Women Can Do About It'

Saturday, 11 May 2013

Gender Symmetry In Partner Violence

Please check out this paper by Murray A. Strauss, which examines both the undeniably reciprocal nature of intimate partner violence & the reasons that information is continually suppressed:
http://pubpages.unh.edu/~mas2/V75-Straus-09.pdf




















There is also an excellent, up-to-date bibliography of 268 studies showing that women are as physically aggressive, or more aggressive, than men in their relationships here: 

http://www.csulb.edu/~mfiebert/assault.htm

Both are good resources to bookmark for research & debate.

Tuesday, 7 May 2013

Some Cool Tumblr Chicks

Yes, everyone has seen those god-damned interminable "I need feminism because..." pictures plastered all over the interweb, but here's a pleasing spin on them I've just discovered. It's heartening to realize there are still at least some thoughtful, considerate & egalitarian-minded wimminz left in the world:














Friday, 3 May 2013

Feminist Activist Makes Up Her Own Rape Threats



"Meg Lanker Simons is a feminist activist at the University of Wyoming. Unable to find enough evidence of any rape culture on campus she invented her own. Under an anonymous name she posted rape threats [such as the above] against herself on Facebook. The campus police investigated. She has now been charged with making a false claim of a threat."  
I don't have much to add to this, it kind of speaks for itself. Googling her name brings up photos of a dumpy girl in a 'Take Back The Night' T-shirt.

Looking at her, I thought "who exactly is she taking back the night from?"

And the answer is, of course, herself, & the fevered nightmares she & others like her have had to invent to prop up their otherwise irrational hate.

It sure is a twisted, crazy world.

More on the story here:
http://kowb1290.com/meg-lanker-simons-cited-for-making-uw-crushes-post/

Thursday, 25 April 2013

The Skatepark

I walk past it most days.

On sunny days sometimes I stop & I sit & watch the BMXs & skateboards hurtling around. There are always at least 15 or 20 boys there, any time of the day, practising their moves. On the sunniest days I guess 50 or 60, & it's seldom I've seen the same face twice.

It's a weird little world I'm not really a part of, & I wonder sometimes where they all practice, because in all the years I've wandered by I've never seen a bad fall, a cut, a broken wrist. I guess it must happen, just not here.

The age of the park's inhabitants can vary anywhere between the under-10s to I guess the late 30s, from little kids to tattooed men with salt & pepper in their beards. But the one thing they all have in common is they are all male. Unlike, say, the children's playground that sits beside it, which is always half & half, there are never any girls in the skatepark.

True, mothers & girlfriends sometimes stand around or sit off to the side on the benches & watch their boys soaring through the air like birds in flight, but in 15 years or so of walking past & taking note, I can only remember one time seeing two little pre-teen black girls riding a scooter, very slowly & methodically making their way over a mound. Then one would stop & hand it over & the other would climb aboard, & cautiously ride it back over the same hump. No-one was teasing them or laughing, or rolling their eyes. They were treated just the same as everyone else.

I've seen photographs of skater-girls, so I know they exist, but in my life, in this country, I can honestly say I've only seen maybe three? Four? The disparity is so great & pronounced it seems to me an estimate of anywhere between several hundred to maybe even a thousand-to-one might not be far off the mark.

Now, nothing is stopping the girls from coming & riding about on the ramps - the skatepark never closes, there's no fence around it, it sits there open in the park, day & night. I've even ridden around it myself of an evening. There's plenty of space, & the boys are friendly & considerate of one another & those around. And I bet you, if a teenage girl turned up who could skate anywhere near as good as they can, those boys would flock around her like honeybees to a dandelion. Nothing is preventing the girls from taking part anymore than anything is preventing them from playing with Lego: they simply choose not to. They'd rather ride ponies, go to ballet classes, & play with hula hoops.

Why is this? Every girl I know rides a bike, so it can't be through lack of knowledge or opportunity. They all ride bikes, they just don't ride them through the air. They don't do stunts on them. They don't ride around on them with no hands, the way I do. Similarly, I've probably in my life seen more girls in rollerskates & rollerblades than boys, but again: they don't use them to do anything dangerous or extraordinary: they're not the ones doing somersaults & jumping through the air on them, or competing to be the best at all costs.


It's begun striking me lately what a great microcosm of male/female differences & preferences all this is. Just as the perceived 'pay gap' between the sexes can be best understood by looking at the differing goals & priorities men & women at large have & the choices they therefore make - rather than believing in some mythical 'glass ceiling', & a universal conspiracy to keep women 'in their place' - many other pronounced differences between the sexes likes & dislikes can best be understood not through 'patriarchy theory' but by focusing on the choices the majority of us make due to innate, biological imperatives.

It's been established that one of the ways in which male & female brains differ is in spatial awareness & abstract thinking. The latter is responsible for all the great mathematical theorems, the great symphonies & architecture of the world, whereas the former explains the greater male attraction to football, cricket, guns, golf, martial arts, parkour... - the fascination in passing objects (or oneself) through the air with skill & precision.

On top of this, males higher testosterone makes men naturally more heroic, competitive & prepared to take risks. Men's perception of, & relationship to, their own bodies is much more one of utility & acceptance of self-sacrifice: all over the world males evolved to be stronger so as to better take care of the women & the children. Men had to evolve a disregard for their own safety or else we simply wouldn't be here now: our great great+ grandfathers would have simply abandoned the incapacitated pregnant women & tiny tots when the tigers turned up & saved their own skin. But they didn't, or at least the ones we are descended from didn't. And there still is no culture today where the women are sent off to war while the menfolk stay home & play with the kids, where the women go out to hunt while the men tend the fire. So, males are both societally & biologically conditioned to care less about their own immediate safety & well-being than a woman, or a dream, a cause, a higher ideal.

This is, incidentally, why there will never be a female 'Jackass' on TV, showing videos of girls hurling themselves off buildings into bushes & kicking each other in the genitals. Women's innate drive for self-preservation makes such behaviour incomprehensible to them. Women move away from possible harm because instinctively they know that to risk damage to their bodies means to damage the ground from which the next generation will be grown.

But boys, everywhere in the world, love doing shit like that, it goes across all time zones, all societies. And 'The Patriarchy' didn't make us this way, only Mother Nature.

So the skatepark is a little, solitary island of maleness, where the boys there are left alone to feel the power & capabilities of their own bodies, doing something crazy & dangerous & sometimes sublime. Where they are left alone to just be boys. And there are so few places like that left, they go there in their thousands, & keep on going back, even once their hair turns grey.

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Tuesday, 23 April 2013

Gender Studies: An Introduction

 New chocolatey-goodness from the ever-flavourful 6oodfella. The creator of the surely-by-now immortal 'Hugh & Mary Discuss Feminist Issues' YouTube series has hit another rich seam of comedy gold with his new Introduction To Feminism course, presented by Ms Andrea Dworkin to a classroom of faces you might recognize...



Sunday, 14 April 2013

Learn To Love The Unloveable

Today I joined in Erin Pizzey's 'Ask Me Anything' on Reddit, & her reply to my question was big enough & wise enough to make me think I would share it here:

Erin, I very much admire your ability to speak to both men & women in a way both of them can hear & relate to, without watering down your intent or dressing it up as something it isn't. Do you have any suggestions as to how others can go about doing this? And also,do you have any thoughts on what the MHRM can do to not end up repeating the mistakes of feminism?
Wasn't Byron the great lover? Lovely poetry. Great lover of women actually. But anyway...

My suggestion is, read my books! Particularly "Prone to Violence" and "This Way To The Revolution." 
My philosophy is that you have to learn to love the unlovable, which is what we are when we have been badly abused as children. And to remember that you can only love people better... there is nothing you can do to help violent and abused people that is punishment, punishment doesn't work, punishment doesn't care and it can't love.

To speak the truth bluntly and openly without offending is hard but if you have processed your anger, and don't let anger by behind your words, but the truth as you see it, and forgive those who get angry and don't let them get your goat, don't insult them, just say the truth that you know, this will help.

For the Men's Human Rights Movement: be true to yourselves, because feminists certainly did not do that. Do not blame women, do not hate, be yourselves, and love one another. I once said to a group of men that "if I asked you to build me a house you'd have it done in 24 hours, but if I asked you to love one another you'd look at me as if I was insane." Learn to love and accept each other. And don't fall into hate and especially competition, you men compete to your own detriment sometimes.

But otherwise cling fiercely to fact not feeling whenever you can.

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